Post Valentine Entry - Stages of Love

This is my last entry this Valentine Season. The other day I was in a mall sitting there with a friend and watching all those lovely couples sitting, talking about love, life and some cuddled up and caressing each other.Oh!! Yes, that was in India, where people say public display of affection is not acceptable.

I can still remember all of them, sitting in front of each other, looking into each others eyes, trying to have a touch of others hand and talking. Second, sitting quietly on the same side of the table looking at the people swarming around them, listening to the sounds and paying less attention to the person who they are with. Third, seemed too much desperate, the guy all over the girl, trying to touch her, leaving little room for her to escape. Anyways, while sitting and staring, thoughts came into my mind and they were about the stages of Love that I am about to write.

 

Stages of Love ---by Az

 

1) First Stage: - Boy meets Girl or vice-versa. They attract each other, start conversing, this is just the start of getting acquainted with each other. There is some unknown chemistry between both. The eyes speak. Both of them try to impress each other, do things that pleases the other person. The beautiful period of courtship, where everything about the other person seems so good. A perfect world of DREAMS.

 

2) Second Stage:-They both get to know each other closely. Exposing themselves emotionally and  get to know about each others life, about their good or bad habits, family, friends and share every bit of their life.Long conversation go on phones and whenever they meet the mouth never stops. They start going out with each other, restaurants, parks, cinema halls. Holding of hand becomes common and a step goes towards kissing and hugging. It all feels good.

 

3) Third Stage: - The so called love is at peak. They are exploring each other emotionally and physically too. The love element has given way to intimacy. The holding of hand is not enough, now more of the other person is needed. So the hand moves up, goes to the shoulder and then comes to the ******. Love turns into Lust. Forbidden things, are too enticing and adventurous, so they are done. The physical intimacy brings talks about commitment, plans of future but everything seems too fine. There is more action than the feelings.

 

4) Fourth Stage: - Both have explored each other emotionally and physically. They both know each other, inside out. They know the positives and the negatives of each other. The communication has almost ceased between them so they don’t know what to talk to each other. The company of the lover doesn’t excite them any more. Now they start avoiding each other, Confrontation, arguments, differences surfaces. Other people company is more intresting now.

 

5) Fifth Stage: - Lack of attention, attraction, communication, love and lust creates a gap between both of them. They start looking for someone who attracts them and finds someone who is more attractive and interesting then the current lover. The dying relation is brought to end by the commitment to the other party. End of Love Story.

 

These are my thoughts....about the stages of love...people may have their own opinion about Endless love relations. But these are my views and an exception to my views is always possible. TRUE LOVERS anyone?????